Re: band director/student


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Posted by Talk to Dad on October 08, 2003 at 08:54:44:

In Reply to: band director/student posted by concerned on October 06, 2003 at 21:27:40:

First of all, you need to be sure you can say more than "it just doesn't seem right", or you should drop it, now. You need to be able to list dates, actions, who was there, what was said or done that raised suspicion. Keep a journal, but don't mention the names of the student or director; they are "she" and "he". If you can't get a half-dozen or so specifics, you're probably letting your imagination get the best of you.

Assuming you have a decent relationship with responsible parents, talk to your Dad (not Mom, because a man will likely be better able to interpret the words and actions of another man). Lay out your evidence, and get the perspective of an adult before you go any further. We older folks aren't perfect, but we've got a lot more years of experience seeing things like this. Then, if Dad agrees that this particular smoke warrants calling in the fire brigade:
o Go to the school counselor, with your parent.
o Remind them that you have no hard evidence, that you simply have concerns.
o Insist on anonymity.
o DO NOT tell your director OR your friend what you are doing. Take the secret to your grave.

I don't have any experience in school administration, but I suspect this is the sort of thing where patterns emerge. If they have one student come in with only suspicions, that's one thing; but if this guy is preying on students, you will probably not be the first person to raise a red flag.

Joe Baker, who thinks that the welfare of the students must be paramount.


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